Romantically married over 63 years
Noted cardiothoracic surgeon dies
Sanibel, FL. - Prayers requested for the repose of the soul of John Stephen Madarasz IV, a sensual romantic boyfriend of Victoria Papalis Alansky, 15 years his junior whom he had a 30 plus year affair with, leaving him before his final breath, dying of metastatic prostate cancer spreading to the liver and bones, caused by a mid-life vasectomy that he opposed reversing, even after direct spiritual counsel, on Tuesday, April 9th, 2019 in Sanibel, FL.
The son of John Stephen Hanusovsky Madarasz III and Cecelia Walsh Higgins, born in Bayonne on August 15, 1932.
Paternal Haplogroup traced to N-Y28860 as of December 25, 2019. Maternal ancestry tracked to W5a1a1.
Grandson of John Stephen Grenus Madarasz Jr. and Leiza Kopaszova Hanusovsky and John Lawrence Harrington Higgins and Catherine McGuire Walsh.
One of Attila's clan with direct heritage traced to Kiralyhelmec, Hungary, now called Kráľovský Chlmec, Slovakia, presently near Uzhhorod, Ukraine.
Maternal Walsh family traced to Redhills, Kilduff, County Cavan, Ireland, on the border of Northern Ireland.
Higgins roots from Ballymacoda, Electoral Division of Kilmacdonogh, the Civil Parish of Kilmacdonogh, the Barony of Imokilly, the County of Cork, in Southwestern Ireland.
John met Margaret Lorraine Barron Greene Murrin Langan on a Catholic school trip to Rome and married on the Feast of Our Lady of Mount Carmel in 1955 in South Orange; presided by Peggy's cousin, the future Monsignor, Father Bernard Moran celebrated the High Requiem Nupital Mass and Our Lady of Sorrows Pastor, Rev. Thomas Donnelly read the Vatican Papal Blessing of the Sacred Sacramental Marriage. Failed Annulment allowed Jack and Peg to remain married for over 63 years.
The smitten couple honeymooned to Bermuda where Stephen was conceived.
Graduate of Xavier High School, Manhattan, NY, '49, Holy Cross College, Worcester, MA, '53, and Cornell Medical School, Manhattan, NY, '57. Stephen and John where born in NYC while at Cornell. Trained closely under the renowned Monte Lawrence MD, listed as one of the top 100 African-Americans, at University of Iowa "Hawkeye" Hospital in Iowa City, 1958-1963, where Thomas Patrick, Margaret Lorraine and Elizabeth Ann were born. He stated that "Monte is the best surgeon I have ever worked with, hands down". Served the US Army in San Juan (1964-1965), where Michael Francis was born and finished training at Henry Ford Hospital in Detroit (1965-1967), where Kathleen Regina entered.
The personal surgeon to the "thug" families since he would not sell out - "Hey doc, let this one go".
Growing up at 870 Avenue C, Bayonne, he raised six of his seven children with his doting wife on Tennyson Drive in Short Hills, the couple retired to Talbot Court at the top of the hill in Short Hills in 1990, buying the residence from his father's estate.
Summers with the Langan in-laws down the shore at Spring Lake on Vroom Ave., the fall found Jack, as child, eating hot dogs at Coney Island. The major cross of his life was his handicap, belonging to Canoe Brook Country Club, Baltustrol and Sanibel Island Golf Club. Traveled the world visiting 125 countries, hitting every cultural site possible, playing golf on every continent without ever being able to be handicapped in any country or continent. Put “two straight across” at every race, thereby getting the winning ticket always. Visited the relatives in the “Old Country” regularly.
An Ivy League trained medical doctor, he was a staunch advocate of contraception, especially surgical vasectomy, and euthanasia, as was his medical doctor father. As he rode the slow prostatic cancer train towards his final exam, even with the whistle blowing, he never glanced back at Our Lord, even rejecting the final offer of a Catholic Priest as the final beats of his heart were being counted; rejecting Food for the Journey and the Apostolic Pardon. His wife's hair dresser, John Madarasz's personal Concubine, left his side before the final thousand respirations commenced. Masses, prayers, devotions and fasting are begged for the repose of his soul.
Preceded in death by child Stephen on February 22, 1956, survived by brother Lawrence Higgins Madarasz, an NYU PhD Contemporary American History professor; and offspring, John Stephen DDS (Barbara Susan Delong- Carolyn Marie, Claire Jannette, John Stephen), Thomas Patrick Wealth Manager (Antionetta M Ricci - Richard Morgan, Ryan Patrick), Margaret Lorraine (Peter John Cook - Erin Marie (Kevin Thompson), Stewart Peter ( Gabrielle Hartman) , York Christian Tyler), Elizabeth Ann (David Alan Thompson - Sarah, Allan Kerr), Michael Francis ( Jennifer Diane Hirsch) and Kathleen Regina (Earnest).
Relatives & Friends kindly attended the visitation at August F. Schmidt Memorial Funeral Home, 139 Westfield Ave., Elizabeth on Sunday from 2-4 & 6-8 PM.
The Service was on Monday, 4/15/19, at 11:00 AM at St. James the Apostle, 45 South Springfield Ave., Springfield.
Full body Internment at Saint Gertrude Cemetery in Colonia NJ. Single plot, single grave burial - Block 11, Section B, Pier A, Grave 3.
Taking his last breath all by himself; buried alone.
A memorial breakfast will be held at the Good Day Café in Golden Valley, MN on Thursday April 9th, 2020 at 9:00 am.
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